Are most gay men effeminate?

I'm gay, but I was just wondering? Are most gay men effeminate? Are there alot of masculine gay men out there? I live in a conservative area, so the only gay people I see are the flamboyiantly obvious ones. Nothing against them, but I've always been...

what offends you?

for example, my boss and i were joking around about this guy i have a crush on at work. i said something, she laughed and said "i'm so glad you're gay". normally i really don't think twice about it because i'm used to being the joker in the group, but...